Thoughts, opinions, and research on topics I've come across in conversation with the ND community that had no ready answers; topics that didn't fit in a book but matter nevertheless; and, sometimes, opinions strong enough that they don't belong in a book at all - too personal to my own experience to risk generalising.
An open letter, written to everybody who ever decided what I was. About what it actually means to think differently - and, it turns out, to feel differently - what it cost to hide both - and why "I'm only protecting them" is almost never true.
Continue readingIn 2017 Simon Baron-Cohen told the United Nations that autistic people were still falling outside their human rights. He was right, and he was mostly talking about children. These pages do the same job for adults and reach a different conclusion: the...
Continue readingAutistic loneliness is usually explained as a preference, and it is rarely about the empty room. It is about the full one - being present and still outside. It is also a loop: you are excluded before you have done anything, you...
Continue readingThe written version of a talk I gave at the Sydney Disability Expo in August 2026. Adults are being diagnosed autistic in their forties, fifties and sixties - not because autism is spreading, but because the lens that could see them was...
Continue reading"Everyone masks" is usually said to end the conversation. It should start it. The claim is true - impression management is universal, and the research now confirms that neurotypical adults mask at work for the same reasons autistic adults do. What differs...
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